Been thinking about resiliency. The way we desperately need it right now. What it takes to build it. This gratitude-filled surprise to feel the most resilient I’ve ever felt in my life. I kid you not. Curious musing here about why that might be, starting with the dictionary definition.
Resilience: the capacity to recover quickly from difficulties; toughness; the ability of a substance or object to spring back into shape
Maybe this ability to recover quickly builds (or not) through negotiating the challenges and trials of childhood and young adulthood. In middle age some of us tap that resilience reservoir and buckle down, get with the program. Me? I took the traditional road. Before I could snap my fingers, I was immersed in the traditional trappings of mid-life: discovering how to live in a marriage, stumbling and fumbling through parenthood, signing my life away to a thirty year mortgage, negotiating career moves that morphed to entrepreneur-ship. In retrospect all that doing looks daunting. In the midst, I just kept moving through, deeply tapping reserves I didn’t even know had accumulated.
Perhaps resiliency multiplies in response to being mined. Anyway, making it all the way to now wasn’t just resiliency; I had a ton of luck and an equal amount of privilege delivering me past the bounds of middle age. It surprises me every day to be here. And in this current crisis, the huge demands of middle age are magnified while ease is expanded for some elders. I put myself in that category.
Still, when someone asks how I’m doing, what it’s like for me these crazy days, my answer depends on the moment. If they really want to know, if they have a bit of time, I speak a truth full of ups and downs, suffering and freedom, struggle and surrender, anguish and surprise. To live in this chaos, to be present with this level of unknown, can exhaust us.
If you’re more tired than usual, you’re totally normal. Our nervous systems are pushed beyond their comfort zones. I’ve had my share of weariness. But these months have been illuminating my ability to lean into a deep well of personal resilience. A reserve built over a lifetime, and not just through the sheer act of making it through. There is something more: the way I’ve consistently cared for myself over time is serving up a wallop of endurance, a stamina that feels uber-essential for survival in this chaos.
This Saturday’s Essential Recharge offers a practice for building resilience. All these “R” words keep tumbling out of what’s in store for us in two hours of Recharge:
Reflexes: instinctual response to the moment, heightened with practice
Resilience: built through finding balance between power and fluidity
Release: step one, key to unleashing all that power and fluidity
Resourced: by the dynamic duo of subtle strength and soft surrender
Reverence: connecting us to a greater power than our own
Two hours to gently receive an introduction/refresh of all the essentials. You choose how to follow up at home with access to real-time recording. Bits and pieces you can dive into in the privacy of your home, on your timeline. Here’s a quick YouTube video-shot of the territory we’ll cover on Saturday.
If all this intrigues you and you want additional support, on-line classes begin again every Thursday and Friday morning starting September 17. And I’m listening. You have been talking to me, telling me the positive effects you are feeling from this practice. Wow…who knew resiliency could feel this good.
Come feel with me…..❤️Bella
P.S. Link to pre-enroll/donate for Essential Recharge is at the bottom of this page: Yoga On-Line.